This morning I learned that my grandfather, Cecil Girard, passed in his sleep. It's a little ironic because I happened to be on the phone last night with my fiancee, discussing what to name our new German Shephard, and his name came up as one of the possibilities, which we discussed for some time. These are the things I know about my grandfather.
Granddad was a a veteran of WWII. Though he never served in a theater of war overseas, he trained men to go into combat as a drill instructor. Picturing my grandfather as R. Lee Ermy only with a prohibition against cursing always brought a bit of a smile to my face. After the war, he flew cargo to China. When my best friend Chris came to visit with me one year, the Navy veteran and sonarman discovered an instant connection with my grandfather. Chris (i.e. Jonesy) had been listening to subs aboard essentially the same plane that Granddad had flown. At times it seemed like I wasn't even in the room as they chatted about their experiences. Granddad was always my picture of the perfect warrior. The dignified man of God and country, never ashamed of being so.
Granddad was also a dedicated husband. His wife, Everma Joe, gave him three children, which gave him seven grandchildren. I'd be lying if I tried to tell you how long they were married, but when she passed away in 2002, I'd venture it had been 50 plus years, and closer to 60 than 50. They fit so perfectly together that they always represented what a married couple should be. These people were Norman Rockwell's goal every time he started a piece. And he never got close to how good they were. At that same visit when I was there with Jonesy, I got the first indication of how much her passing had on him. He broke at one point, choking back tears while talking about her. I had never seen this man, 6'3" and wide across the shoulders as a football player, always fit, show one second of weakness in his life before that time. It made me understand just how special a relationship a husband and wife can have and how truly deeply she had been his heart.
He was a humorist. This wasn't Bill Cosby, by any means. His humor was so dry I once watched a glass of water evaporate as he told a joke. He wasn't above cheesy humor either. He'd often point out a sign on the road that said "STOP AHEAD" and gleefully tell my brother and I "Stop, a head!" In large part, I think my sense of humor developed from his own. At times my sarcasm is thick as molasses. Other times I can resort to the cheesiest joke I can possibly think of laughing giddily.
In some ways, he inspired me by showing me respect. A conservative man, politically, he recognized my own interest in politics as it developed at a young age. As I studied political theory and economics, before I was in high school, he had gotten me a subscription to "The Limbaugh Letter" and later, another to a public policy quarterly magazine. It was more impressive, to me, that when my grandmother faced a second hip replacement surgery, he asked my opinion. Keep in mind, I wasn't out of high school. I'm not 100% sure I was out of middle school. The doctor had but Grandma on a new drug that was supposed to help with the degenerative nature of the joint disease, so Granddad sent me a study on the drug's effectiveness and asked what I thought. I told him they would likely be recommending the replacement within three weeks. Turned out I was right. He and Grandma always expected the most of me, and I have to say, I didn't live up to those expectations.
Granddad was a patriarch in the truest sense of the word. The unquestioned head of the family, his children and grandchildren were doctors, architects, artists and one unfortunately, became an attorney. His children are good, moral people, his grandchildren have followed that example. Okay, I'm not the best about it from the perspective of getting to church and I've had my crises of faith, but there are few situations in which I haven't done my best to be good to others.
Granddad was a Christian. It defined him in a way that few of us who believe can claim. His religion wasn't shoved in your face. It was there, open and evident from the way he conducted himself and his beliefs. He was a regular at his church and participated in the choir. It was where he went to exercise when he got old, until they needed him to go someplace where he could be supervised.
Towards the end of his life, his mind became distracted. Little registered on him long enough that he wouldn't often repeat the same question he had asked five minutes previously. I hate to admit that it effected my desire to be around him. It was hard to see the giant man who was the stereotype of a WWII marine from the black and white movies suddenly transmogrify to mortal flesh.
I had the pleasure of introducing him to my fiancee only a few months ago. One of the brightest moments he had in the last few years was when she was discussing how her father is older than her grandmother. His eyes instantly lit and his laugh came to the front as he asked about this odd circumstance. It was clear to me then, given the right prompt, his mind was still capable of catching fast to something of interest and being engaged, if only briefly.
In the end, he had recently moved into a retirement village of sorts. Karen, the fiancee, had been asking last night after him, if she should go visit him, being six hours closer than I am. It was his desire to pass peacefully in the night, and from all indications, he did. He missed his wife terribly. Today I know he is with her and he is happy in her arms again and in the arms of God.
I will miss him, and when I look at the world today, I know that much of what is wrong is that there are less men like him, and more men like me. I know that I would be well served to spend the remainder of my life trying to get to a point where I'm like him. A Christian, a warrior, a man of principle, a man of service. Everything we think of when we think of the "greatest generation".
God bless you, Christian Warrior. You will be missed.